Multitasking is one of life’s challenges that we don’t have time to think about—we just do it. It’s not uncommon that your glassing is leaking, but multitasking will not help it stop. Trust me.
I’ve heard it said that a career woman’s life can be compared to holding a glass that has six holes in it, with each hole representing an important area of our life, for example: health, work, hobbies, spouse, kids, friends. Fill the glass with water and our five fingers won’t reach all six holes. No matter what you do or how hard you try, at least one area of your life will always be leaking.
The “Leaking Glass”
If a woman’s glass has six holes, I propose that a man’s glass of water has four holes that they can cover without significant difficulty. A man can have the same career demands as a woman, but when a woman gets home, she starts her second career. As soon as she sets foot in the doorway, she transitions into the multiple roles of cook, housekeeper, shopper, and default parent, among many others. Most of us wouldn’t have it any other way because of the joy we experience when we choose to live full, overflowing lives. But when we become overwhelmed by life, it can directly affect our self-esteem, which in turn affects our workplace behavior. When we are spread too thin, we are unable to give any of our priorities the attention they need. This can turn into a negative cycle that, when left unaddressed, becomes harder and harder to fix. For example, when we don’t have time to exercise, our body changes, our clothes don’t fit, and we regrettably may lose our self-confidence. We feel out of control—powerless over our own lives. None of us can afford this type of mindset when we’re striving toward the top. While we may often struggle with imbalance, feeling frustrated and underappreciated, we can prioritize what’s most important to us and organize our time accordingly.
While caregiver roles are beginning to become more egalitarian, society’s general perceptions of them are not going to change to a great degree anytime soon. Businessmen continue to assume that women will find ways to juggle these roles and shoulder these extra responsibilities, and if they don’t, it’s their problem to figure out. This goes unspoken. It’s not fair. It’s a double standard. But it’s the reality. Take control of your life and feel empowered in the workplace.